In-laws can be a tremendous source of support and closeness. They can also be a major problem in your marital relationship. Here are some tips to help you cope with your in-laws.

1. Respect. Even if you don’t think your in-laws deserve it, show respect for them anyway.

2. Loyalty. It is natural your spouse may feel some loyalty for his/her family. It’s OK as long as you don’t come in second.

3. Criticism. Even if you have the in-laws from hell, don’t criticise them. If you spouse criticises them, just listen. Making comments other than asking clarifying questions can create more problems.

4. Roots. Take time to discover both your genetic and cultural roots and share them with your spouse.

5. Feelings. Identify and share your feelings about your family of origin with your partner.

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6. Healing. If you are having difficulties with your own family issues, it is important you be open to healing any past injuries so you can move forward in your life with your spouse.

7. Boundaries. Define and set boundaries with your in-laws concerning your feelings, thoughts and expectations about holidays, vacations, visits, time with grandchildren, financial issues, and privacy.

8. Saying No. Know when you have had enough. Have a password if necessary so your spouse understands when it is time to end the visit with your in-laws.

9. Care Giving. As your in-laws and parents age, it is important you discuss practical concerns with them such as their health and financial issues. Find out their expectations about their care in case they cannot provide for themselves in their later years.

10. Priority. Remember to put your marriage first.

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